A best friend once said,
If you like someone because of his/her weakness, it's empathy, not love
If you like someone because of his/her kindness, it's admiring, not love
If you like someone and you just don't know why, it might be love
(that might be true)
Someone other, well.... my ex said,
There's no such thing as love. In other words, love doesn't exist.
Love is just a man-made illusion, wrapped with chocolate and flowers.
When a man and a woman get together, there's no love. The sensation of falling in love came from a chemical reaction, that is... the need to reproduce.
(so.. this "chemical romance" between two "chemical buddies" might also be true)
What about marriage? Is it about love attached to a commitment, or the otherwise?
Why do people get married? "To reproduce" is such a silly thing to say, but that might be true.
Why am I not married yet?
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Others would said,
Marriage is not about the right person, but it is about the right time.You will ended up being married if it is the right time. Err... yes, when the right time comes, you might also ended up marrying... the wrong person. Sucks isn't it..?
Here's to make it simple:
The right person + The right time = good marriage
The wrong person + The right time = bad marriage
And when is "the right time"?
Want to get married + Don't need to get married = wrong time
Want to get married + Need to get married = right time
Don't want to get married + Need to get married = might be the 2nd right time
Don't want to get married + Don't need to get married = be happy!
True, I've tried to drag myself into a 'commitment'. At that time, I wanted to get married (which girl doesn't?). But now, I realize that I wasn't even ready for it... far from good. Therefore, the theory of 'the right time' might also be true.
Some others might say that... When you're at the "right time", you might already find the right person. It kinda reminds me of a song lyric.. "love the one you're with...". It is amazing that for a number of people (in some cultures), love comes after marriage. The couple could even hardly known each-other before the wedding ceremony. Sounds pretty romantic. But dear God.. please just let me fall in love first.. and if it's not a sin to live solo, then marriage could wait, so.... skip!
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ReplyDeletethank u nando..
ReplyDeleteVita to Nino ;)
ReplyDeleteAh that's my top wish list, to be falling in love again before I decide whether it's a right time to get married or not.
Don't you think this married thing is overrated?
I hate to be constantly reminding that I'm getting closer to my expiring date, what is that?
actually at this stage.. it might not be u who wanted to get married, but the people around u. and it does feels like a burden.
ReplyDeleteyes it's overwhelmingly overrated, as if singles were sinners. but we do still have choices ;)
he.. he.. curahan hati nih meng..
ReplyDeletekayaknya bagian yang dibilang ex-mu, aku pernah baca dari suatu tempat. itu tentang teori asal cinta ya. tapi seingetku, teori itu gagal buat nerangin kenapa ada cinta dengan sesama jenis. toh, mereka ga butuh buat "reproduce" kan. he..he..
one thing 4 sure is, being "not available" is a lot harder than being single. That's why many marriage end up with divorce. up to now, i still learning what love and marriage is. i think it's just a journey, not a destination. ^-^"
waaaa anggii... nice comment...
ReplyDeleteiya bener juga ya... cinta sesama jenis berlawanan dengan kebutuhan utk reproduce...
and about that marriage thing.. semakin meyakinkan gw untuk santai.. hihihi